The word don't is an interesting thing for me. It is essential to know what not to do sometimes, however telling me what not to do without providing alternatives of what "to do" has limited use and can often be quite harmful.
I see this growing trend on social media of people saying how they don't want to be treated, or how certain behaviours are unacceptable; but with very little instruction on how they would like to be treated.
I think this trend comes from a place of goodness and that is in the intention to help, but from my experience the reality is falling a little short. Rather than help, many of these posts simply condemn the reader; a reader who may have previously been an ally to your cause but now leaves as they feel they are "not doing it good enough."
In many ways we are fighting overt shame with a more subtle stealthy kind of shame.
The moral of the story? If you're going to say what not to do, then follow it up with some positive alternatives!